How do you know you’re marrying the right person?

To get confirmation from God on whom to marry rarely has any direct answers except a series of references to the bible. The issue of marriage is so delicate that many people, especially women, find themselves confused about whom they should marry when faced with more than one proposal.

How to know if God wants you to be with someone can only be answered by God himself, but since it’s not easy to hear God speak, well, unless you die and meet him first, women are advised to follow the recommendation of the holy book.

Marriage is often referred to as the game of love, usually by people who are quite naive to its real purpose. Simply put, marriage is the union of a man and a woman, which bounds them both physically and spiritually. It brings together two families, two bloodlines that have never known each other since their existence.

Therefore, the only thing whose delicacy can be compared with the fragility of marriage is an issue of life and death. Indeed, being married to the wrong person, the person not meant for you, the person whose qualities do not meet the criteria set by the bible will not only affect the said marriage but it also has a way of creeping into your relationship with other people, and most importantly, it creeps into your relationship with God.

To avoid this disaster, every lady is advised to follow the signs that will be written down in this article. These signs have been fished out of the bible to specifically aid women in their quest to find the right man for them.

10 signs he’s the man you should marry according to the bible

how to know if he's the one sent by God

If you ever asked “What does the bible say about who you should marry?“, then worry no more. Here are the subtle signs to know who God wants you to marry.

1. He should not be dependent on his parents

From Mark 10: 7-8, it is written that “For man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one.” 

The man you want to marry should be independent and not run to his parents for money except when it is to open a business or any other relevant issue. He should be able to make his own decisions without always looking up to his parents.

In order words, the man you want to marry should not be a mum’s pet or a daddy’s boy, and he should be able to make up his mind on a decision without the interference of his parents. This is the only way he can stand up to his parents, his friends, and his colleagues if they treat you unkindly during your marriage.

2. He should be able to bring both of you closer to God:

From the book of Hosea 2: 19-20: “I will betroth you to me forever, I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion, I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord.” This verse sums up all that you need in a husband. In your quest to find true love, remember to seek out a man who adds to your spiritual life and not one that subtracts from it.

According to his words and actions, the man you want to marry must be able to increase your faith in God and, in general, must be able to strengthen your relationship with God. 

3. He should be loyal to you

The wife has no authority over her body and yields it to her husband, and the husband too yields his to his wife” 1 Corinthians 7:4. This bible verse simply explains the ultimate ownership you will have over your husband’s body and his over yours.

Therefore, if the man you want to marry flirts a lot, if he courts any other woman while courting you, what makes you think that he will keep his pledge of loyalty to you during the marriage. The bible preaches monogamy; therefore, if he has his attention on other women, it contradicts what the bible says.

Most women think they will “cure” or “change” an unfaithful or flirtatious man in marriage. This may work on 2 out of 10 men. This on its own is a margin too large to risk in marriage.

4. He should be a man of peace

Mathew 5:9 says that “Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called sons of God.” This bible verse can be easily explained in this context be saying that before a man can be called a son of God, he must be a peacemaker.

Therefore, if the man you want to marry is a peace lover, if he is a peacemaker, then he is a son of God, according to the bible verse I just quoted. You should check for traits of humility, gentility, and anger management in the man you want to marry.

You have to discover who he is when he is angry, does he lash out at anyone and everyone or does he control himself. When you are having a heated argument with another person, what is his reaction? Does he try to quiet you down, or does he take your side, or does he take sides with the other person?

Although it is an exhilarating feeling when the man you want to marry comes to your defense, it is good also to remember that the bible gives precedence to peace over his protection.

5. Does he accept his mistakes and apologies

Every relationship is prone to have its ups and downs. It is okay to have arguments with your partner.  Quarreling with your partner isn’t what is disastrous on your relationship, staying angry at each other, is.

Therefore, before choosing a partner, you are advised to gauge how easily he apologizes when he is in the wrong. Is he too proud to apologize to you when he hurts you, or is he quick to admit to his mistakes and sincerely ask you to forgive him?

Also, you should ask yourself if he forgives you quickly when you wrong him or does he prolong the issue and demand you to be more persistent in your apologies. Although this verse speaks of the wife, it can also be likened to the man. Proverbs 25:24 “Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” This is what the bible says about an unforgiving partner. 

6. Is he patient with you

Whom to marry according to the bible and from the book of Proverbs 22: 24 – 25, “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person or one who is easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” This is what the bible says about having friends with a hot-tempered person. What about tying the knots with a man who is easily angered? You should take notice of how easily angered the man you want to marry can get.

If he gets angry as fast and as often as he breathes in the air, then do what the bible says. Do not let your emotions deceive you into thinking that he will never get so angry that he will result in violence. Follow the words of the bible and marry the man that will make you happy.

7. Does he care for you

According to 1 Corinthians 7: 2 – 3, “Every man should have his own wife and every woman her own husband. A man should fulfill his duties as a husband and the woman as a wife”. The second verse hints on the level of affection and care a man should give to his wife. Therefore, you should check for signs that he genuinely cares for you and will always prioritize your comfort and well-being.

8. Is he addicted to a vice

Don’t associate with a person who drinks too much wine or stuff themselves with food. Drunkards and gluttons will be reduced to poverty. If all you do is eat and sleep, you will soon be wearing rags,” says Proverbs 23: 20 – 21. This bible verse lays emphasis on the dangers of being addicted to a vice. It hints of the outcome of being lazy and warns us against being in association with those kinds of people. Take this as a hint from the bible that if the man you want to marry only eats and sleeps, you should not be with him, because when he goes down and starts wearing rags, you go down with him. 

9. Does he look at you lasciviously

Mathew 5: 28, “But I say to you, that any man who looks at a woman with lustful intent has committed adultery with her in his heart.” This is what the bible says about a man that looks at any woman that is not his wife in a lustful way. 

10. Is he blessed with wisdom

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffer harm” Proverbs 13: 20. The Bible approves of a man blessed with God’s wisdom in this verse. A wise spouse will impact his knowledge to you and your children. He will be a role model to your children, his friends will be of good company, and above all, he will draw you closer to God.

Indeed all the tips and signs you need, to know if a man is the one for you are hidden in the bible. You can only discover them if you take to reading and meditating on the Bible as often as you can. Follow the clues and guide the bible gives and marry the man prepared for you by God.