Getting a girl to kiss you is not easy, because it’s that one step that builds the foundation of your relationship or friendship. When she allows the kiss, you have a bonus to take another step forward into defining your relationship.
When she backs off, it’s going to be a little bit awkward, that moment defines what you’re into. She might not be interested in you, and it could be your last time meeting her. And if she is someone who has been a friend to you, then prepare to let that little wave pass for a while, because there’s going to be a lot of awkward moments after that. And well hope the wave lessens.
It is best to know that you’re not going to delve into kissing her if she hasn’t given you that impression.
Before I get into that, I will gradually make a list of what will aid you to get a girl to kiss you. If not her going for it first, it will be her not fighting you off to kiss her.
See also: 21 Exact things To Say After Kissing Someone
13 sure ways to get a girl to kiss you
Pay attention to the incredible tips below on how to get a girl to kiss you first.
1. Ready yourself
For you to get a chance to let this happen you have to appear clean. Prepare yourself, clean up nice, trim those beards, get a hair cut, smell nice. It’s a bonus to setting yourself up to be attractive by sight.
Here are what you’re not going to look like:
Unshaved beards.
Sweaty clothes.
Dusty and dirty. ❌
Rather you should:
Get your beards trimmed.
Choose a good scent.
Clean up nice. ✅
2. Build a chemistry
There should be chemistry between you two for you to think of kissing her. Heck you two might be best friends and she just has never seen you that way, you don’t want to lose your friendship with her. You should let her in on your feelings for her. If it goes well, congratulation and if it doesn’t, well…you should try and move on. Try to build chemistry before you take a step close, and make sure she wants it as much as you do. There should be that tension existing for it to end tremendously.
What you’re not going to do is :
Kiss her because you feel like it.
Make weird advances towards her. ❌
But this:
Build chemistry.
Take her on dates.
Gradually start opening up about how you feel.
Make sure she wants it too. ✅
3. Choose the right setting.
This is self-explanatory. Attempting to kiss a girl in a noisy background? You deserve a chair in the back, sitting with people who failed to approach this simple tip rightly.
You have to make the mood right. You kissing her where a lot of your friends or hers are in, it’s not a good idea. She would want to savor the moment and not get shy in front of friends around. It’s your first kiss for crying out loud. The scenario would have been acceptable if you two have begun dating, something as little as a kiss wouldn’t be done uncomfortably around friends.
See also: 5 Amazing Benefits Of Kissing According To Science
DON’T:
A noisy background
A place full of friends❌
RATHER:
Alone with her.
Dinner
A walk in the park
In a theatre
A stroll under the stars.✅
4. Be flirtous.
Yes, be flirty. Smile while you talk to her, the soft genuine smiles that reach your eyes. Make flirty jokes that will make her laugh. Create a warm cozy intimate atmosphere, try some gentle touches on her face, compliment her eyes, her lips. Tell her she has the prettiest eyes. But don’t do too much.
5. Compliment her.
I have never learned of anyone who doesn’t like compliments. You love compliments so does she. She would appreciate it if you let her know how beautiful she looked tonight, she would love to hear it from you. You have no idea how much effort she put to look that dashing for you. But don’t give unbelievable compliments, like if she wore a shirt and jeans and you say you love her outfit. She would question the sincerity of your compliment.
DON’T: •I like your hair, I like your dress. I like your face, I like…(This doesn’t do it honey)❌
.
SAY: •”I love your dress, and the color brings beauty to your eyes” ✅
6. Touch her
Holding her hands while talking, letting your leg brush over hers under the table. It creates a little bit of sexual tension.
You can confidently fish out her hand and slowly caress her palm while maintaining eye contact. You can just ask for a hug, or jokingly let her know you’re giving out free hugs today, once you envelop her in your arms. Not in a creepy way, but subtly, bury your head in between her neck, or peck her head, her neck, or her cheek. Possibilities are when you pull out of that hug, if you go in for a kiss it will be happening.
DON’T:
Grope her.
Aggressively turning her face to yours.
Unnecessary touches
Touching her ass. ❌
RATHER:
Hold her hands
Caress it while you talk.
Tuck in her hair behind her ear.
Hug her. ✅
7. Use your eyes.
Try to hold eye contact, time-time try to direct your eyes somewhere else, her lips maybe. Try not to look so lost, that she might feel you weren’t listening to her. Do it too much, she would see you as a creep.
Our eyes often tell a lot about what’s going through our mind or what our heart feels. If she notices the soft look in your eyes, often paying attention to her and her lips, she would get the memo. And when you’ve decided to kiss her, she wouldn’t be surprised anymore, but respond to it. Because if she didn’t want it, she would’ve asked you to hold that thought the moment she knew.
DON’T:
Look at her boobs.
Getting lost and never looking back to her face, her eyes, or her lips. ❌
RATHER:
Look at her softly.
Look at her lips.
Look at her eyes
Bite your lips while maintaining eye contact. ✅
8. Get her to come closer
Lend her a hand and let her draw closer to you, or you come closer yourself. Sometimes most men make advances or jokes that will make her lean closer, and whenever she leans forward, they lean in too. Making the odds of a kiss happening higher.
DON’T:
Shove her to you.
Compress her.❌
RATHER:
Lend her a hand to come closer.
Whisper to her to get comfortable.
Or you come closer yourself. ✅
9. Massages
This can only happen when you two must have become close or been closer. She could ask for a massage or you can offer to massage her, maybe because she had stressed herself over the week. When you’re sure you’ve massaged her enough, try to go into feather kisses on her back, her legs, or her cheek. If she melts to it and wants it, she would give you access to kiss her lips.
10. Be subtle
Try not to rush yourself or her. You should be gentle about your intention. Follow her reactions to your advances to know if she would like a moment like that to come, rather than being in a haste and ruining the mood.
11. Do n to ask.
While you would be advised to ask a woman before kissing her, chances are you wouldn’t be getting a peck either. If you’re asking, you’re not getting it. It shows your lack of confidence. A man who knows what he is doing will discern if going after a kiss will happen, or not.
Her body language should tell you, but if you are one to ask, no biggie. Try to go about it the right way. But don’t ever ask her to kiss you, rather you ask her if you can kiss her, not ” I want to kiss you” (Ok? )
12. Speak lowly.
Imagine being loud and then in a second, you’re bringing forth your face to get a kiss. Don’t imagine that, it’s horrendous!
Speak to her in a low tone, and she will respond to you in that manner. Speak to her loudly, and she will be picking up her purse to dash out of that restaurant to avoid embarrassment.
When you two are speaking to each other lowly, you’re just setting the mood for a kiss to happen right.
13. Recheck.
Talk about your relationship, slowly caress her palm, kiss her palm or her cheek while you talk.
Look back to her face to watch her reaction. If she gets uncomfortable then you have to pull away with a smile, not to make it awkward. Going back to what you two were talking about.
If she doesn’t give an uneasy reaction, you might be getting a kiss if you go for it.
